i respect people who want to keep their menstruation to themselves but i have to make it everyone’s problem. Literally if it was socially acceptable to lead every conversation with “I’m menstruating” i would.
“this work is problematic because of how it handles [subject]”: reasonable premise for media criticism
“this work is problematic because it depicts [subject]”: do not pass go do not collect $200 this is, as a general rule, a functionally reactionary and conservative argument
house is one of those shows where it’s obviously Not Normal from the outside perspective but then you watch it and you get frog boiled into accepting so much. and then you see a scene out of context or a list of house’s crimes or something and then you have to remember. this is one of the most shows to have ever
the dehumanization of high-risk people at almost year 3 of the pandemic is so enormously scary and painful.
“high risk people will protect themselves” how? did you think about that? are we able to go grocery shopping? are we able to see loved ones? are we able to access lifesaving medical appointments? no! you refuse to protect us!
“I think you’re taking covid too seriously” I don’t want to die! I don’t want to die! I’m a human, too, and I don’t want to die! Look at me — I’m a human!
well. it started with dinosaurs eating each other. getting bigger each time. and then cut to jason statham doing pull ups in a nearly pitch black room with Under Pressure as the bg music who then preceded to spend the rest of the movie coparenting a fourteen year old girl with another man who is convinced he speaks Big Shark while jason battles giant sea creatures with his bare hands and Frowns. so take from that what you will
sorry if this isn't the right place to ask or if it's too odd, but do you have any tips on writing fat people in sexual contexts? i assume it'd be similar to non-fat people, but i wanted to ask anyway.
yes!!! good question!!! it is actually a bit different!
so first thing is really consider the positions they are in. for example- if you are writing someone with a very large stomach, spooning probably isn’t gonna work. (spooning as a sex position, cuddling is fine!)
also, use the word fat! or chubby! or big! dont try to come up with hundreds of flowery euphemisms, it feels really condescending almost ? when writers do everything possible to avoid calling the character fat.
id say lastly, re-read what you’ve written and look for a negative bias. does the fat character receive a similar amount of positive physical descriptions as non fat characters? or did you shift to talking more about their personality and facial expressions to avoid it? is the skinny character “hot” and the fat character “cute”? are you minimizing that person’s desirability because of their weight?
if you are skinny and writing about fat people, just take a little extra care, because your default thinking is going to be centered around your experience- that is normal! and fine! but make sure you step out if that default thinking for people who are different
not to Discourse but I’m a cis man and my partner is an afab enby and if you call us a “straight couple” I will personally come to your house tie you to a chair and make you listen to a podcast about gender identity on endless repeat
this is specifically @ the people who saw us at pride together and saw them wearing a “THEY/THEM” button and still referred to them as my “girlfriend” you’re all cancelled thanks
it’s called respecting queer people juice
y'know the really amazing thing about the notes on this post - apart from just the sheer number of people who are, like, viscerally terrified of the existence of a person who isn’t cis - is how many of them are responding to things that aren’t here. specifically, you’ll notice I said nothing about my sexuality. I didn’t say I identified as non-het, or that I considered myself part of the LGBTQIA community. on the flip side, I also didn’t give you any reason to believe I’m not bi, or that I’ve never been in a relationship with a cis man. y'all know nothing about my sexuality from this post and you don’t need to and I’m not going to tell you about it now because! this post! was not! about me!
it was about respecting my partner’s identity. and the fact that they don’t get that respect from people in the exact community that they should be able to count on getting it from.
ie, you.
they are not het or cis, and no relationship they are in will ever be a “straight relationship” because they. are not. het. or. cis.
everyone in the notes gatekeeping me because I’m “not oppressed”? I never said I was. the person you’re really attacking and invalidating by shitting on this post is them, a pansexual nonbinary person who is unerasably queer.
huh. it’s almost as if the whole “we can’t let straight men use queerness to worm their way into our community” discourse is just an excuse to hate trans people, isn’t it.
I reblog this every time I see it–
thinking abt all the ppl constantly posting abt afab nonbinary ppl who are dating cis men and saying that clearly their partner just thinks they’re a woman. and how they’re the same ppl on this post disrespecting op’s partner’s identity. almost like y’all don’t respect afab nonbinary ppl and think they’re just “basically women” (unless they physically transition in which case they’re “basically men”) but don’t want to admit that so you project that shit onto their partners.
“it’s not queer fiction unless the queerness is explicitly declared in the text according to currently accepted terminology and in a way that meets the approval of the entire audience” I mean follow your heart I guess but I trust myself as a queer person to recognise queer themes
“but doesn’t this risk giving the author undue credit for queer representation” I do not care about the author
we need to destroy the idea that girls should wear makeup. normalize bare faces on prom queens and flower girls and cheerleaders. no products at all instead of ‘7 product simple makeup routine.’ no more 10 step skincare and regular facials and dermablading and gua sha just to be comfortable with yr natural face. i want to see eye bags on the funny librarian and acne on the swim coach and wrinkles on all our adult role models. i want to see a 16 year old girl that has never tried putting on eyeshadow. i want to see a 7 year old girl who doesn’t have to go out and buy powder for her dance recital. i want to see trans women and girls everywhere to never have to wear makeup, regardless of how well they 'pass.’ no more 'contouring to look masc’ either. a post-beauty industry world is possible
+ if it wasnt clear this post is explicitly trans inclusive :]
this is good and correct except perhaps for the dance recital one, which I’m concerned isn’t aware that any performance under stage lights really does require makeup for everyone, any and all genders, because a) otherwise the lights will make you look weird, off-color and maybe unwantedly glowy, and b) the audience won’t be able to make out your facial features and expressions if you haven’t deliberately exaggerated them with makeup. This one’s not a beauty standard, it’s a practical theater thing.
cis people who worry too much about trans people hitting on them are so funny i just cant understand them. are you scared of winning the lottery too?
“what if you found out this guy who asked you out has a pussy? or what if this woman has a dick?” i would do backflips and shout WAHOO YIPPEE HIP HIP HOORAY